If it were easy to redesign your life for success, there would eventually be no need for resolutions. Think about it; if you changed your life for the positive every year, we would all ultimately have nothing to change.

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I got sick and tired of being sick and tired. You are probably feeling a very similar way if you are looking for ways to change your life. It was a battle. I’m not going to lie. I had victories and failures all year. You can read more about it here.

What I didn’t do was quit. I was fully committed to keeping my resolutions to live a full and successful life. After all, you only get one life. Why live it miserably?

Let me help you!

After several years on this quest, I have found a few ways to help others stay on track:

How To Redesign Your Life For Success

You will only get out of this what you put in! If you want to go about this adventure rogue, my best advice is to divide your year into months. Below I have listed 12 steps you can take to drastically improve yourself and your life by the end of 2021.

1) Get Your Priorities Straight

Write out your priorities in life and then put them in numerical order of importance. These will look differently for all of us according to how we want to redesign our lives for success. Here are a few starter questions to ask yourself: 

Do you have kids?

What about a toxic relationship?

Do you need more time? More money?

What poisonous habit can you cut? 

Do you spend too much time doing something instead of being productive?

Have you always dreamt of starting something?

Does someone or something (work or family) constantly ask for more than you are willing to give?

This list of priorities is to help you understand what is most important in your life. Generally, when we are most unhappy, we feel taken advantage of or lack something we need or want. It is vital to know who or what belongs in order. How else can you ever keep your priorities straight or redesign your life for success?!

2) Learn To Say No 

We have been conditioned to answer when spoken to and to be people pleasers. This is not necessarily a healthy outlook on life. We need to learn to stand up for ourselves, our kids, and our lives in a healthy way. There is no need to be ugly or even explain yourself. But you do need to practice saying no and getting others used to it coming out of your mouth.

3) Minimize

Clutter clutter everywhere!! We have stuff to hold our stuff! When is enough enough? Minimize the things that no longer bring you joy. Don’t feel obligated to keep something forever just because it was a gift. Don’t buy an item just because it’s on sale. If it directly serves a purpose or brings you joy, keep it. If it doesn’t, have a talk with yourself about thanking it for being in your life and let it go.

4) Get Healthy Emotionally

Next, find the source of your pain, anxiety, and joy. This is when you need to dig deep. If you are serious about redesigning your life for success, do less of the sadness and more of the enjoyment! It is that simple. I found that social media made me upset during things like the U.S. election or Father’s Day. So I stayed off during that time! If Karen in the mom group is telling you that you aren’t good enough and cause you pain, then get outta there!

5) Cut Toxic Relationships

We all have a person who irritates us. That’s not what I’m talking about. Who is the person that brings you pain? The one you feel obligated to help despite their selfishness, or is not safe/comfortable to be around? Who is the person you make excuses for? It’s not easy to cut people out of our lives, and it’s even harder when it’s family, but hear me when I say this: TOXIC PEOPLE ARE TOXIC! Period. 

Disclaimer: if you or your children are not safe in any way, close this page now and seek help. Contact me or the person in your life you trust the most. Tell them you need help. You are the advocate for your kids.

6) Get Organized

The best way to get organized is to start. It’s easy to get overwhelmed and quit even at the idea of organization. Pick an area that’s easiest, like a hall closet. Fold the blankets, get boxes or baskets labeled with different things and remove items that don’t belong there! Then repeat on another area! Here is an excellent blog on how to clean a garage (idea #2). 

7) Unplug

How much time do you waste with your phone in your face? Who is in the room with you that you might be ignoring? Do you ever come away from the news feeling defeated or depressed? Why do we do this to ourselves? There is a healthy way to use our endless supply of information and resources. Sometimes the people around you don’t know how to ask you to put it down and focus on them. 

8) Get Healthy Financially

Many moons ago, my husband and I came across Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University. Step number one was to get a $1000 emergency fund and keep it. HA!!! It would have been easier to grow a second head out of my neck than to come up with $1000 extra! We couldn’t even make rent!

But it works! We stuck through it and it was a redesign for success that changed our lives. I highly recommend his system. At the very least, set a budget and stick to it!

9) Share What You Have With Someone Else

What do you have that can help others? Time? Knowledge? Money? Contacts? Part of getting healthy ourselves is reaching outside of our own lives to help others. Who can benefit from you? What can you offer or teach someone?

10) Get Healthy Physically

At the very least, stretch, drink water, breathe deep, and check your vitamins. But now is the time to cut the bad habits if you want to redesign your life for success. Eating badly, Smoking, drinking, living on caffeine, or being sedentary can all be toxic. 

Whatever your bad habit is, replace it. It’s almost impossible to stop something cold turkey, so get an alternative. Workout, chew gum, get a hobby, keep your hands busy! Try yoga or meditation. Get your blood flowing. It creates endorphins (your brain’s feel-good neurotransmitters) helping you to keep going! But you have to start. 

11) Get Healthy Mentally/Spiritually

I go to church. It’s like a weekly self-help pep talk and reminder of my power to do great things. I leave every week feeling like I can take on the world! Here is my church if you would like to watch online. 

Clear the clutter and junk from your brain. Stop speaking death and negativity. Speak life over your family, finances, and life! Smile and love the people around you. They are just trying to do the best they can, same as you.

12) Be A Nice Human

Last but not least in redesigning your life for success, be nice! Do you have a nasty habit of yelling or being combative? Are you known for joining every battle you are invited to and fighting to the death? That’s not a badge of honor, I found out.

I used to be that person. It’s a lonely and selfish way of life. Instead, look past subtle differences and see the person how you would like to be seen; for your depth. Smile!

Don’t get me wrong, I will channel the depths of Hell if someone comes after my family or my kids (like any mamma T-rex would), but other than that, I’m a pretty chill person now. It’s tough to offend me (as a conscious effort), and I have found peace because of it.

Last advice:

Redesigning your life for success is a long road, but the time is going to pass anyway, so you might as well be who you want to be at the end of it. 

LAST CHANCE!

 What are your tips for redesigning your life for success? Leave me a comment!